Do you find yourself doing things that really meet your needs and wants, or do you busy yourself to temporarily numb, pacify, or distract yourself from doing, saying, and/or being what will satisfy your needs and wants?

I realize I left something out, your desires.

First, let me define my terms.

• A need is something important and requires being addressed; if not, the result(s) can have strong ramifications.
• A want is something you don’t need but would really like to have or experience.
• A desire is a want with intensity or passion.

Hundreds of years ago, when the culture at large pinned shame, guilt, and embarrassment to our desires, starting with the sexual and erotic (a whole other conversation), it became uncomfortable or difficult to own one’s desires, let alone know them.

What if you accorded the same attention to your desires, as you do what you need and want?

Ignoring your desires is like an orchestra with only one instrument; you can make music but only with one sound and after a while it becomes monotonous and repetitious. Where’s the joy, fun, and passion in that?

Did you know that by honoring what you passionately or intensely want, you can actually fuel your Life energy? Imagine that fuel added to your life. What would you do? Where would you go?

Need some help igniting that spark? Hypnosis can be your vehicle that gets you there. Don’t know how? Schedule your complimentary 30-minute right now by clicking here and find out.

Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

Have you ever reached for something that seemed to call your name? It could be food, the refrigerator, a cigarette, or even a drink. And when you answer its call, have you noticed that you don’t feel good about yourself or what you did for giving in to it?

You’ve just experienced BECKONING.

Beckoning occurs when you have an unmet emotional need, want, or desire and substitute it with distractor, something that can’t truly take care of what’s not being met. A distractor can only temporarily take your attention away, but once you’re done using it, or its effects have worn off, you’re back to square one. You might even be further back than that, as you might have added shame and guilt to the mix.

HUMMING is different.

It happens when you listen from the inside to what it is you truly need, want or desire and then, directly address it. For example, when you listen this way, you eat because you’re hungry, eat the type of food that really satisfies, and stop when you’re full. In the case of alcohol, you don’t need to drink to numb yourself. If its cigarettes you reach for to relax, you instead use healthy ways that take care of your stress or discontent.

Take a listen to this week’s recording on Humming or Beckoning and start breaking through your distractor patterns now!

Here’s to you Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

Who ever made that up, who ever told us this was wasn’t telling, or didn’t know the truth. Words count and they have impact.

Right now clap your hands together, firmly. I’ll wait.

So, which hand hurts as a result? (If you didn’t clap, now’s the time to; I’m patient)

Did you notice both your hands were impacted? This is how toxic words work. Whether you speak them or hear them, you too are affected.

What are toxic words?

Any word that takes away your dignity as a human being - words that belittle, put down, shame, blame, make wrong, and/or judge. We may not even recognize them as toxic, over time we can become desensitized which only happens through repetition.

Why care?

According to a study done on water by Dr. Emoto, he demonstrated that words said to water (yes, water!) changed its molecular structure. Since the human body is estimated to be 60% water, imagine the impact of words we’re exposed to every day!

What next?

Take a listen to this recording I did on what to do with the toxic words around you!

Beth

I've never played the game Jenga, have you?

I finally got to play it last week at a party. It consists of blocks that you stack into a tower and then you remove one block at a time, placing the block you took on top of the tower. You do this hoping the tower doesn’t fall. Obviously, there will come a time when it will!

Here’s what this game taught me –

I began the game not wanting to make a mistake, so I was timid and serious at the start. After the first tower fell (not on me!) I got more and more comfortable removing blocks from the bottom, even as the tower would start to sway. I found I enjoyed being daring!

LESSON 1: Trying to look good impedes learning and experience. And having fun!

After learning Lesson 1, I began to see the tower differently, and as a result how I played changed. I paid attention to details I wouldn’t normally notice and experimented. After all, it wasn’t IF the tower would fall, but WHEN. Admittedly, when it did fall, we all laughed and rebuilt the tower and played again.

LESSON 2: Once you stop focusing on not making a mistake you’re capacity to learn expands. And having fun!

I didn’t know any of these people when I arrived. Lesson 2 led to becoming part of the group! Everyone was in this together; each with different styles of play, each playing their part.

LESSON 3: Working together creates its own energy and can build community. It’s definitely great when there’s a spirit of cooperation and, may I mention, fun!

Which leads me to….

LESSON 4: Play and fun does a person good! So why separate play and fun from our everyday life? What if you could combine things you do and add a touch of fun? You could dance as you vacuum, do the dishes, and/or brush your teeth. Skip as you go to another room in your home. How about taking a moment while online and look up a funny joke and share it with someone?

There’s always a game of Jenga!

Here’s a link to start your fun!

Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

We have a tendency to try and avoid making mistakes so we hedge our bets, doing our best to make sure if we change something, it’s without any ensuing problems or issues. As a result, the wrong mistake can be to do nothing and act as if nothing is wrong when, in fact, there is.

When making any change, it doesn’t mean diving in without first looking, but if what you want is to maintain safety and security, it won’t work. Inherent to change is change itself. It means you, too, will have to change. Without it, you’ll end up with old patterns that no longer serve you. You also end up stuck with more of nothing that’s wrong.

So, how do you avoid making this wrong mistake?

1. Be as clear as you can about what you want and need. Lack of clarity can come from doing something others around you haven’t or may judge negatively.

It could be the fear of choosing differently, with the perception that you won’t be accepted or loved, which creates the fog. Really ask yourself, “Is the response of fear, true?”

2. Acknowledge that any change will have a ripple effect. None of us can control all of the outcomes; we can, however, employ ways to deal with them. Enlist people you know who will bring in a different viewpoint to assist you and who will help you strategize your way through.

3. This is actually where to start: be neutral as you explore options. Whenever you judge, yourself or others, you limit what’s possible. Neutral is being in a calm state of mind and body as you look at the situation. It expands your ability to assess situations, freed from the perceptions/feelings that may have contributed to your current thinking. Here is a link to what the Dalai Lama said regarding Analytic Meditation, a practice that cultivates being neutral when looking at solutions.

Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

Do you have days when it seems everywhere you look there’s an unexpected challenge? Maybe it’s hard to slow down the thoughts circling your mind, you feel overwhelmed.
 
Welcome to OH, no! mode.

It’s doesn’t feel comfortable, does it? Have you noticed past uncertainties rush in as well, adding to your current stress?

OH, no!

What if you could switch to OH, my! Imagine what it would be like to go from tension to relaxation. Would you like that?

There is something you can do on the fly, and as simple as it sounds, your breath is the easiest way to accomplish this. Here’s why-when you inhale to the count of 4, pause, and exhale to the count of 8 (a 1:2 ratio) you automatically trigger the parasympathetic nervous system which naturally calms your mind and body. Expanding your tummy as you inhale enhances your results!

Doing 4 repetitions in a row switches you to OH, my in just a short time. And if you’re with anxious people, you breathing like this will calm them as well.

Take a moment right now and experience it. You can do more than 4 if you need or want to. It’s easy and readily available (nice that your lungs follow you around!). I’m taking my own advice right now!

Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs

Beth

Are you being told, “All you have to do is _____ “, as if they didn’t notice if you could have, you would have? Are you tired of hearing, “All you need is to use your willpower.”? What you need to know is this is not about having a character flaw; it’s all in how you’ve gone about trying to change. It’s time to look at willpower and yourself differently. There isn’t anything wrong with you when your resolution or resolve wilts. You just went to the wrong part of your mind to make something happen.

To create deep and lasting change you must engage the Subconscious Mind, where your habits and beliefs are stored and actively running. Compare it to having a password protected file on your computer that you need to open. In this case, your pass code is hypnosis! It’s your key to achieving your goals and programming your motherboard for success!

“So where do I go now?”

Great question!

“So what do I do now?

Schedule your complimentary 30-minute telephone Discover Session. I will answer all your questions so you can find out if hypnosis is the right choice for you! The first 5 people to follow this link and schedule their individual hypnosis sessions by February 28, 2018 will receive a substantial savings! Are you ready to be one of them?

Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

In all my years of living in Delaware, the Eagles never won the Super Bowl. Now that I live thousands of miles away they just did. I was only part of the excitement through social media, friends, and family.

I need to let you know, I’m not the football fan in my family as I only watch the Super Bowls. I don’t have cable TV, nor looked hard to find someone who did, so I didn’t watch the game live this year; I was able to stream the game’s highlights but only on Monday morning.

Now, I realize, I’m an ex-pat.

I don’t belong the same way I used to, to the east coast, and was a little sad about it Sunday. I missed seeing Philly lit up in green and being a part of all the excitement. I was between my past and my present. The roots I put down will always have an east coast flavor to them, and they also need to reflect who and where I am now.

And if I’m in dire straits, there is a local Philly cheese steak place in town. They get their rolls from Amoroso, where else?

Here’s to Cheese Whiz!

Beth

A friend, who over the last 12 months has been creating a new chapter in her life, took a huge step this week. Realizing there was no perfect time, she moved. She’s putting a life together while she’s flying the plane; in other words, all the pieces aren’t in place. Yet.

While taking this huge leap she’s scared and exhilarated, all at the same time! She exemplifies flying on the trapeze, which I shared about last week.

Who she’s being inspires me to take more leaps of my own. Many times there isn’t a perfect time, when ‘waiting until’ becomes more of a prison sentence.

Is there a perfect time you’re still waiting for until you (fill in the blank)?

You can wait yourself out so you don’t make changes, or you can take a leap, fly the trapeze, or boldly go where you haven’t gone before!

If you’re interested in taking the leap, but don’t know in what direction, you owe it to your future to listen to Visioning Your 2018: Tapping into Your Inner Wisdom. This is the complimentary teleseminar I did a few weeks back. I recorded it so you can listen to it when it’s convenient for you. When you follow the link you’ll receive the handouts so you can easily follow along.

Here’s to Life Breakthroughs!

Beth

Last January, when I packed up my car to move to Arizona, not everything could come. My attachment to places and things, along with connections to people, all needed to be sorted through.

I had to be willing to let go, big, to fly the trapeze. I had to have the willingness to experience the in-between, when I’d be in the air, where I was most afraid. Without letting go, however, I’d only recreate the life I had in Delaware in a new location. I needed to, was ready to, move and fly!

What do you keep holding onto that holds you back?

Think of the resolutions and changes you want this year. In order to get there, you need to let go of what has been. After all, you no longer want it any more, do you?

REMEMBER, no one flies the trapeze alone, trapeze artists don’t. So ask yourself, “What do I need so I can let go, so I can have the life I really want and need?” Now, consider me your trapeze partner. I’m here to assist you in getting to where you want to be!

Are you ready to start? It’s time for us to talk! Your complimentary, 30-minute telephone Discovery Session is waiting for you!

I look forward to talking with you soon!

Beth