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Mastery - a lost art?

7/28/2016

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Have you ever been impatient with yourself because it was taking too much time to be good at something?  Did it ever make you feel inadequate or not very bright?

Please, I can't be the only one!

There was a time when Mastery was integral to our schooling whether it was in sports, music (do they even have that in schools anymore?), mathematics, etc..  

Mastery is a process, a way for us to develop the skills we need whether around something physical, mental, or emotional.

Mastery takes time. However, our culture at large has made us impatient, so we want what we want when we want it. You have less patience since your want/need/desire is met quickly like when you shop online (no waiting at the checkout as well as no conversations with other people), instant downloading, and TVs that come on within seconds (do you remember when the TV tubes had to warm up first?). When I was growing up we waited for the phone to ring 8 times before we hung up as there were no answering machines and we needed to give the person time to get to the phone. Now we expect an instant pickup with a quick reply.  

We've become acclimated to this speed and, therefore, we've come to expect it of ourselves. But with this cultural perspective we take it further, as we've been taught to judge ourselves as bad or wrong when we aren't, can't be, or try this on for size - aren't designed to be fast!  

When you approach learning as a process of Mastery you know time is part of the equation. You expect it and plan for it. In fact this process lets you master patience within yourself and with that expanded viewpoint you'd never think yourself as inadequate or not very smart, ever! You would know more time and practice is needed for you to learn and master the subject.  

How do you imagine you'd feel about yourself if you were freed of those judgments about yourself? Happier? Content? If this seems like a foreign concept then you have been limited by this culturally based inaccurate expectation!

You would also see the ripple effect of this expanded viewpoint as you'd see other people this way too. Just imagine how that would show up in your relationships!

Beth
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Magic bullets = results

7/22/2016

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How often have you been offered a "magic bullet"? All you have to do is buy or have it and viola', whatever you want you have. And it's even better when there isn't any effort on your part!  

When people ask me about hypnosis for weight loss many are looking for the hypnosis to do the work for them, like the wave of a magic wand and poof----the weight is off. I call this "do it to me hypnosis". There's more to the process of shedding weight and keeping it off; it requires change not only in one's lifestyle and choices, but inner changes in how one thinks and feels. It still takes effort, which hypnosis makes easier and sustainable.     

Here's the thing - if you aren't invested in what you want, even if you achieve it  you won't keep it. Being invested (vs/ a magic bullet) is an important part of any change you want to make.   

But wanting isn't the same thing as being ready to do the work that's involved.  Wanting is a state of want and therefore, lack. Think of what you want. How does it make you feel as your list grows as you become more aware of what you don't have? Maybe you feel discouraged or even hopeless.  

Here are 3 things you can do to increase your success:

1. Look at what you're focused on wanting. Is it worth your time, effort, energy, and resources? How much will you need to give up so you a) can have it, and b) continue to have it?

2. Perhaps you're looking at a change that is necessary for your health and well being. The question isn't about the change or intervention, the question is - what quality of living do you want to have AND are you willing to do what's needed to have it?

3. What supports do you need to make these changes? Think of a bridge and how many different support beams it needs to span its distance. People are no different. Hypnosis may be one of the supports you need to go the distance, too.  Interested to learn how? Click here now to schedule your convenient complimentary 20 minute phone Hypnosis Discovery Session to find out more.
 
Beth
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What does a voice, a car, and Plato have in common?

7/13/2016

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Have you ever noticed how young children have a rich "fantasy" life?  If you were to confront them with what's "real" and "pretend" they may not have a clue what you're talking about. A child's inborn curiosity and lack of a fixed belief system expands their perceptions to include what isn't visible or measurable.

Have you ever sensed or known something without having "tangible proof"? There are those who require some type of "proof " while others don't. Each group can look at the other and wonder "how can they do things that way?!"  But the real problem comes in when you judge, making someone (or ourselves) wrong for the way they know or base their actions on.

Unsure which one you are?

Depending upon how well you know me you won't be surprised to know I bought a car not based on the car reports or the Kelley Blue Book but on a voice that said, as I was test driving it, "Take me, I'm yours."  I was sold right then and there!  

If your eye brows lifted or you rolled your eyes, you are a "I need tangible proof " person; if you nodded along with me you let your intuition be your guide.

Whether you need proof or not, you get stuck whenever you have fixed beliefs of how things should be as you stop being curious.  You have debates not dialogs, the kind Plato used in his writing.  Dialogs open you up to exploration and deeper understanding instead of being centered on being right.  Embracing the many ways of knowing lets you grow even when it isn't comfortable.  

Are you ready to be curious again?

Beth

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Build on your skills

7/7/2016

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Last week I gave one of my neighbors a ride to work. She's going to be a senior in high school and was saying how she didn't feel ready to graduate. We had a four minute ride so I was quite direct knowing there was a reason we were talking. I asked her what scared her. She wasn't able to hear the question until I asked it a third time.  

So what was her fear?

Finances - could she afford to support herself, pay her bills, budget, etc..  She told me she could continue to live at home after high school but realized she didn't know what she needed to make the transition of living on her own. I highlighted, it was a skill set she needed to develop and had nothing at all to do with her intelligence. The wonderful thing is skills can be learned!  As I was saying this to her I was also saying this to myself.  

I don't know about you but growing up I don't recall a distinction being made between a skills gap and being smart or intelligent.  This is an incredibly important distinction to be made! So I referred her to the YWCA of Delaware and The Money School for classes on budgeting and finances. I also let her know that many grown-ups have the same skill gaps.

In those 4 minutes I watched her transform from being at the effect of a mind
habit - not looking at a situation for the skills gap that may exist to realizing she was capable of learning and could, therefore, "build on (her) skills."  

What can you do?

Look at where you don't feel successful or competent and ask yourself if there's a skills gap going on; is there something you don't know how to do?  If so, who can teach you?  In some cases you might delegate the task to someone else and let you do what you do best.
 
Beth
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    Beth Keil

    Beth is a Board Certified Hypnotist, certified in 5-PATH® Hypnosis and a certified 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® instructor.

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