One of my clients is going to be unemployed very soon and it’s bringing up fears and uncertainties within them. They experienced unemployment in the past and well remember the financial struggles and difficulty of finding another job. Even though they know people well connected in their job field, they haven’t reached out for assistance, instead they’re waiting until they feel comfortable asking for help.

There is a danger in waiting for something to be comfortable – it may never happen!

Instead you can become cocooned in another type of comfort, your comfort zone, even when it’s a scary place to be, even when the proverbial house is burning.

Here’s what you may not know, the feeling of comfort you seek comes from the experience of being in action. There is no way around it. Numbing yourself whether using food, alcohol, drugs, and other distracters like smoking and “bad” habits, can give you a reprieve, but that’s all they can do. None of those behaviors have the ability to create mastery, the mastery of not being comfortable.

In the doing and in the acknowledging, even when you’re not comfortable, but still going ahead anyway, that’s where you’ll find change. That’s where you change!

I had fears while driving all the way to Tucson alone. I mastered my fear with each mile I drove, each state I traveled though, even when I got lost. Do you know what happened? I recently drove alone to Los Angeles and San Diego and back to Tucson free of those fears even when I got lost on my way home and added 2 hours to my trip.

Is there comfort you’re waiting for until you (fill in the blank)?

The upcoming events I’ve been sharing with you are one way to start stepping out and living more fully even with discomfort. I hope you’ll join us and start mastering what’s there for you to master! Check them out below!

Beth

I’ve driven coast-to-coast as of last week. If anyone would have told me a year ago I’d do this much driving, do this much traveling and in the process see more of this vast country than I ever have before I wouldn’t have believed them! Up until this January my limit was driving 7 ½ hours and never alone.

What is it like when you hit limits? Now - what is it like when you went beyond?

Were there resources you drew upon that perhaps you never did or appreciate before? Keep in mind when others help, it only happens because you make it happen, but their assistance can help you go past your limits - perhaps even further than you ever imagined!

What limits have you been putting up with that you want to go beyond?

Do you have all the resources you need to do so?

For assistance in going beyond your limits, I hope you’ll join me this June during my “East Coast Tour” for one (or both) events I’m offering! They are designed for you to go past the limits you’ve been living with so you can have your own “I’ve gone and done it!” moment.

Embracing Your Brilliance, Power, Health and Joy. This offering is for you if you want to make personal changes in how you think, feel, and take care of your body. This is an evening event and is free. Pre-registration requested. Learn more.

7th Path Meditative Self- Hypnosis. This offering is for you if you’re ready to take the next step! 7th Path Meditative Self- Hypnosis lets you remove the negative inner programming that holds you back in what you do, how you think, and feel and, therefore, how you live. This negative programming causes you to feel bad, leading to distractors –behaviors that temporarily numb, dull, or take the edge off of feeling bad. The problem is those bad feelings return and usually with a dose of shame. Distracters include smoking, overeating, feelings of sadness and/or anxiousness, fears, etc... Done in the privacy of your own mind 7th Path is a powerful practice to assist you in changing and transforming your life. This is a full day intensive. Learn more.

One-on-one individual personal sessions. This offering is for you if you’re ready to commit to action and change. Individual sessions allow you to gain great clarity and understanding of the inner negative programming that has led you to distractor behaviors, clears them, and puts in place what you do want! This option requires a complimentary Discovery Session to explore what you want to change and to learn how hypnosis can be the solution you’ve been looking for! Learn more.

Beth

The other day I played checkers with my 7 year old nephew. I kept asking myself whether I should play to let him win and what would I teach him if I did that or played my (very rusty) best.

It was very obvious he was strategizing, looking a move or two ahead (I was impressed!). I knew he wanted to win (of course!). I acknowledged him for how well he was playing - how he was planning what moves to make and that I enjoyed how he was making me really think. When I had more kings then he did he took one of the crowns off my king and hid it. I mentioned the change I saw and he looked around for the checker when I saw it in his hand. He knew I saw it.

“What would I teach him?” popped up.

Again I told him how well he was playing figuring out his next move. I let him know he was challenging me to be a good player. Then I said I didn’t like that he wasn’t honest about what he did to my king to which he replied, “You don’t like that I cheated.” I said in a neutral voice, “I know you want to win, I just don’t like you weren’t honest with me.” To me there is a difference, a difference I didn’t go into with him as it wasn’t the time or place.

We continued to play and when I had more kings than him he suddenly ended the game. In my past I would have been told I was a sore loser and felt shamed. I didn’t want nor need to do that to him. I understood he was frustrated, he played his best, that he wanted to win, and he was 7 years old.

“What would I teach him?”

I thanked him once again for a good game. I told him he was really good at strategizing (saying this differently a few times) and how much he made me think, challenged me to do my best, and that I enjoyed playing with him.

What would he have learned if I let him win and not challenge him to be his best? What would he have learned if I shamed him?

Each of us, whether speaking with another person or to ourselves, is teaching.

What would you teach?

Beth

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