So much of this week is centered on being thankful as Thanksgiving is Thursday.  Sometimes finding what to be thankful for can be difficult or impossible.

I'm not about putting on a happy face because it's the "right thing" to do and I'm an optimistic pragmatist. 

So what can you do if you're unable to be thankful for anything?

1. Stay connected with people you care about and who care about you.  Whether you call them, see them in person or virtually it doesn't matter.  Knowing you matter does!  Remember connection is what we all need.
2. Up your self-care!  Get enough sleep and rest, eat healthy, and spend some time on your Self doing things that focus on your well-being. 
3. Reach out for help if you're feeling more than "blue" or down.  Here is a link to Crisis Text Line and a resource in Delaware. 
   

For those of you who are able to find gratitude in your life how wonderful!  And consider if there is anyone in your life that could benefit from your friendship and reach out to them!   

Beth

There's a phrase----"being a needy chick" that has haunted me.  Haunted may be a strong word but it is the word none the less.

Being needy, no matter who you are, can make you feel so vulnerable, exposed, and leave you thinking you want too much.  I have felt and thought this so many times during my life starting when I was very young.  As a result I wouldn't fully share myself afraid I'd drive people away by my (perceived) neediness.  Looking back I see how this way of being didn't let me fully be who I am and tap into my energies and passions without apology or judgment. 

I'm reminded of when parents of young children apologize for their child who is shy and quiet or loud and enthusiastic (I having been the later).  They need to stop so their child can be honored and learn to honor themselves for who they are. 

I now am embracing the fact I am an intense person; I can tone it down but I AM THE ONE CHOOSING versus the fear of what the other person might think of me.  I'm embracing what a wise woman said to me (thank you Angela Bixby!), HAVING needs isn't the same thing as being needy.

She also said, "Beth, you aren't a needy chick."  

I suggest if you think yourself needy it's because you're with people who can't or aren't able to give you what you need.  That isn't a judgment about them or you. 

And when you are with a person or people who are able to meet you on your level of energy, passion, and intensity it is just amazing!  You might even feel you've come home to yourself as you can be who you are and then some!

Here's to your needs!

Beth