We have a tendency to try and avoid making mistakes so we hedge our bets, doing our best to make sure if we change something, it’s without any ensuing problems or issues. As a result, the wrong mistake can be to do nothing and act as if nothing is wrong when, in fact, there is.
When making any change, it doesn’t mean diving in without first looking, but if what you want is to maintain safety and security, it won’t work. Inherent to change is change itself. It means you, too, will have to change. Without it, you’ll end up with old patterns that no longer serve you. You also end up stuck with more of nothing that’s wrong.
So, how do you avoid making this wrong mistake?
1. Be as clear as you can about what you want and need. Lack of clarity can come from doing something others around you haven’t or may judge negatively.
It could be the fear of choosing differently, with the perception that you won’t be accepted or loved, which creates the fog. Really ask yourself, “Is the response of fear, true?”
2. Acknowledge that any change will have a ripple effect. None of us can control all of the outcomes; we can, however, employ ways to deal with them. Enlist people you know who will bring in a different viewpoint to assist you and who will help you strategize your way through.
3. This is actually where to start: be neutral as you explore options. Whenever you judge, yourself or others, you limit what’s possible. Neutral is being in a calm state of mind and body as you look at the situation. It expands your ability to assess situations, freed from the perceptions/feelings that may have contributed to your current thinking. Here is a link to what the Dalai Lama said regarding Analytic Meditation, a practice that cultivates being neutral when looking at solutions.
Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!
Beth
When making any change, it doesn’t mean diving in without first looking, but if what you want is to maintain safety and security, it won’t work. Inherent to change is change itself. It means you, too, will have to change. Without it, you’ll end up with old patterns that no longer serve you. You also end up stuck with more of nothing that’s wrong.
So, how do you avoid making this wrong mistake?
1. Be as clear as you can about what you want and need. Lack of clarity can come from doing something others around you haven’t or may judge negatively.
It could be the fear of choosing differently, with the perception that you won’t be accepted or loved, which creates the fog. Really ask yourself, “Is the response of fear, true?”
2. Acknowledge that any change will have a ripple effect. None of us can control all of the outcomes; we can, however, employ ways to deal with them. Enlist people you know who will bring in a different viewpoint to assist you and who will help you strategize your way through.
3. This is actually where to start: be neutral as you explore options. Whenever you judge, yourself or others, you limit what’s possible. Neutral is being in a calm state of mind and body as you look at the situation. It expands your ability to assess situations, freed from the perceptions/feelings that may have contributed to your current thinking. Here is a link to what the Dalai Lama said regarding Analytic Meditation, a practice that cultivates being neutral when looking at solutions.
Here’s to your Life Breakthroughs!
Beth
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