Being needy, no matter who you are, can make you feel so vulnerable, exposed, and leave you thinking you want too much. I have felt and thought this so many times during my life starting when I was very young. As a result I wouldn't fully share myself afraid I'd drive people away by my (perceived) neediness. Looking back I see how this way of being didn't let me fully be who I am and tap into my energies and passions without apology or judgment.
I'm reminded of when parents of young children apologize for their child who is shy and quiet or loud and enthusiastic (I having been the later). They need to stop so their child can be honored and learn to honor themselves for who they are.
I now am embracing the fact I am an intense person; I can tone it down but I AM THE ONE CHOOSING versus the fear of what the other person might think of me. I'm embracing what a wise woman said to me (thank you Angela Bixby!), HAVING needs isn't the same thing as being needy.
She also said, "Beth, you aren't a needy chick."
I suggest if you think yourself needy it's because you're with people who can't or aren't able to give you what you need. That isn't a judgment about them or you.
And when you are with a person or people who are able to meet you on your level of energy, passion, and intensity it is just amazing! You might even feel you've come home to yourself as you can be who you are and then some!
Here's to your needs!