It could be the day before a life event like the birth of a child, a difficult diagnosis, major weather events, a trip, or the day before you meet someone significant or a relationship makes a shift.
Then IT happens, The Day comes, things change and so do you.
Unlike preparing for a trip, you won’t always know when you’re having a Day Before, so there may be no preparation opportunity. More often these powerful days just happen and you only know in hindsight that you even had a Day Before.
Because you all have days of change, shift and difficulty and we don’t usually know they are coming, what can you do to be better equipped to manage them when they do happen, because it’s not if one will happen but when?
- Build your resiliency by clearing old patterns that automatically put you into fear mode. Fear colors situations in a way that can overwhelm, which is different than response to the actual event.
- Use skills from previous experiences to help you master strategizing what you need. If you know people with valuable skill sets ask them to mentor you; keep in mind they also need to be the right teacher for you and where you are now.
- Read books or watch movies that inspire your inner strength and resiliency. I think of certain characters (real people or not) and ‘try on’ their strengths to bolster my own. I’m hearing a lot about the new Wonder Woman movie and will see it this weekend to see what she has to offer me!
What can you do when you’re in IT?
- It’s important to acknowledge how you’re feeling; feelings and emotions are there for guidance to be used with other sources of input and information.
- Think back to other difficult moments/times and know you got through them too (you’re here, aren’t you?). Knowing you lived through challenging times of change is a great reminder that you can do it now. This is not the same as being happy about it – you don’t have to be happy about any of it. But even happy changes, like meeting a significant someone, can create fear, worry and changes you aren’t sure how to handle or adapt to.
- Ask for help and support from trusted people (these aren’t always the “Experts”). Think of those who know your heart.
- And remember to breathe – inhale to the count of 4, pause, and exhale to the count of 8. This breathing pattern neurologically shifts the body from fear (adrenaline) to calm (endorphins) sooner than you realize. Dealing with a crisis or any difficult situation is easier when your head is clear and your body more relaxed.
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Next week I’ll be writing you from Tucson!